The following is a guest post by my sweet friend, Rissa. ❤
This is for the girl who skipped a meal more than once today.
For the girl with scars lining her wrists.
For the girl who looks in the mirror and frowns in disapproval.
For the girl who feels unloved and unworthy.
This is for you.
Everyone is insecure about something. No matter how big or small, we all face deep-seated worry, loneliness, and self-doubt, and we all try to solve our problems differently.
Insecurity is like gossip-it tends cover up the truth. Once you acknowledge that you’re insecure about something, you doubt everything else about you. You begin searching for more “mistakes”. More things to dislike. More characteristics to point out and overthink, saying, “Hey, God? I think you messed up.”
We live in a society that tells us self-love is the perfect remedy for insecurity. It’s a “fake it til you make it” philosophy. If you pretend to be confident, eventually your confidence will become genuine. But, in reality… you end up lying to yourself and then you’re right back where you started. Insecure and lacking in the confidence department. Loving yourself will never make your insecurity go away. That’s basically putting a band-aid on cancer.
So what will fix insecurity? Is there anything to heal that gaping hole of doubt and lies? How can you break free from this cancer?
The only way to defeat insecurity is through Christ and His grace.
“But He said to me, ‘my grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9).
Let me tell you the story of my friend Rachel…
Rachel grew up in a loving home. She has great parents, amazing siblings, and fantastic friends. She was loved. Rachel spent her life going to church and received Christ as her personal savior at a young age. She heard all about God. But, she didn’t really know God himself. She knew the facts, but she lacked one thing: an intimate relationship with Jesus Christ.
…And painful circumstances left her lonely. She didn’t feel loved anymore.
She still had her family and friends, but her faith was failing. Rachel was upset with God for things He made her go through. She began to blame Him and herself for everything going wrong in her life. She had to be the problem. She was a problem, at least in her mind.
Rachel bottled up every emotion and never let it out. She became annoyed with her personality. She laughed too much. She was too loud. She was too naive. In her desperate attempts to be happy again, she tried to be normal. She wanted to be like everyone else. Rachel looked at her friends, and convinced herself that she didn’t measure up in the beauty department
Her hair wasn’t as curly as Sarah’s. Her nails weren’t as long as Amanda’s. Her smile was crooked, and Whitney’s smile looked just like a Colgate commercial. She was skinny, but not as skinny as Rebekah. After going through a mental list of everything she disliked about herself, she made a note to improve whatever she could. So she changed and tried to be more like her friends.
She curled her hair more often and ate less.
A lot less.
It started with skipping breakfast. She didn’t really have time to eat in the morning anyway. Next, she ate less at lunch. Then, less at dinner. Eventually, she was eating one thing a day. And then even that stopped. Rachel went days without eating. She drank water, and nothing else. She went to extremes just to lose weight she didn’t even need to lose in the first place.
She avoided mirrors because her reflection made her heart sink. She was losing too much weight too fast, and no one really seemed to notice. Or maybe they just didn’t care. Rachel was tired all the time. She felt weak. Lonely. Broken. She had landed in a pit of depression and shame. She was also angry. Angry at God for not helping her anymore, and angry at herself for letting her life spin out of control.
Almost a year later, Rachel began to change again. But, this time it was a good thing. There wasn’t really a big “Come to Jesus” moment. Her life didn’t change overnight. It took effort and time. Instead of placing her worth in what people thought, she placed her worth in Christ and found a new identity in him. She came face-to-face with grace.
The minute we ask Jesus to save us, He covers us with His perfect righteousness. He wipes away every stain left by sin. Completely. Perfectly.
When other people look at us, or when we look at ourselves, we see our outward appearance. We see the blemish on our forehead, that piece of hair that won’t cooperate, and the weird way our stomach folds sometimes.
But when God looks at you, He doesn’t see a single blemish. He doesn’t see a mistake or a failure. He doesn’t see a girl who isn’t pretty enough. He sees a flawless heart, because He covered it in His righteousness.
That is grace.
Sweet friend, will you cling to these truths?…
You are not worthless. You are valuable. (1 Corinthians 6:20)
You are not forgotten. You are chosen. (John 15:15-16)
You are not alone. You are a child of God. (Ephesians 1:5)
Beautiful girl, you are fearfully and wonderfully made. And you are loved. (Psalm 139:14; 1 John 4:10).
[Root your identity in the one who loves you and defines your worth by His flawless sacrifice. His love is waiting for you. He is waiting for you. Embrace Him.]
To find out more about Rissa and read her blog, just click the photo! I know you’ll be encouraged and inspired by her words. ❤